John's Success Story

John and his wife, Military Nurturing Program

John was seventeen years old when he enlisted in the military. He proudly served for ten years in the infantry unit of the Army Special Forces. While the image of “coming home” celebrates reuniting families and friends, John had a difficult time re-integrating into civilian life.

He echoed the feelings of so many who have served, “in the military, you are taught to suppress your emotions so that you can survive in a hostile environment. In civilian life the structure is not there, no one is controlling you. It’s not black and white.” When you come home, you are expected to express your emotions, and show empathy. For John, re- learning the importance of sharing feelings was a key factor in the Easter Seals Military Nurturing program, which has helped his relationships with his wife and his family. John initially struggled with feelings of frustration with others when faced with seemingly unimportant discussions or things that often ended in flares of temper. He was re-introduced to listening and nurturing skills through the program and his family has seen a change in the way he can now relate to them.

John is able to listen to his wife express her own frustrations and needs and not immediately tell her to “fix the problem if she doesn’t like it,” or that he “doesn’t want to hear it” as he may have been directed in the military. He said he now understands the value to both of them, of simply being present to listen to his wife express her feelings.

The program also helped him learn more about his Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and how it affects him not only emotionally and mentally, but also physically and chemically. He now has a greater understanding of how PTSD affects his daily relationships with others. The program empowered him to have the resiliency to not give up in his personal life as well as to continue to advocate and fight for his disability services. John has advice for others who may be struggling, “I would recommend the Nurturing Program to anyone, even if you don’t have children or a spouse, because it will help you with any relationship.”

John has advice for others who may be struggling, “I would recommend the Nurturing Program to anyone, even if you don’t have children or a spouse, because it will help you with any relationship.”

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